Hey Jane, It’s been a few days since a special boy and I split up. I feel really blue most of the time, and I need a few tips to help me out of this funk. I can’t focus in classes and I’ve been moody with people I love. Help a sister out!

Thank you,

Paris McCartney  (not my real name)

Bonjour Paris,

I always appreciate how much love, time, and effort we put into our relationships, but we all know most relationships go downhill sooner or later. I know at first you’ll be heartbroken or feel empty. That’s perfectly normal and okay to be saddened for the first few days after the breakup. But you can’t allow yourself to stay down for too long. For whatever reason you guys broke up, just remember you’re not alone and stay strong. It’s very typical that you will vent and cry to a close friend or relative. It is also a good idea to write it out or anything that helps pour out all of your gloomy feelings rather than keeping them bottled up inside. I recommend having a little distraction to get away from all the sorrow. Go out on a Friday night with some friends, go shopping, or find anything positive to distract you from the pain you feel. Work hard and prioritize more important things like your family, school, sports, or other extra activities that you do outside your house. Also make sure to attempt to create a friendship with your ex. It’s best to keep situations in good terms rather than keeping a grudge between each other, especially if you guys see each other at school or practice on the daily.  Just a reminder: you will get through this and you will get over it. You just have to learn to love yourself because if nobody does then who will, ya feel me?

If you are having a struggle or need some quality advise, drop me a line.

Jane